Anything's possible ....you can make anything happen, start by reaffirming the below. Go through them one by one until you actually start to belive it!

Affirmations

1. One thing others like about me is?                   
2. One things I like about myself is?
3. One thing I do very well is?
4. I don't cope very well with?
5. A value I try to practise is?
6. What others dislike about me is?
7. If I could change one thing about myself it would be?
8. If I could change one thing about myself it would be?
9. An example of my caring about other is?
10. One important thing I intend to do within the next two months is?
11. One thing I have overcome is?
12. I tend to put myself down when?
13. If I had to say one good thing about myself, I would say?

Personal Bill of Rights

1. I have a right to be treated with dignity and resepct as an intelligent, capable and equal human being
2. I have a right to follow my own values and standards
3. I have a right to recognise and accept my own value system as appropriate
4. I have a right to say no to anything if I feel that I'm not ready for, it is unsafe or violates my values
5. I have a right to make decisions and say "yes" and "no" for myself
6. I have a right to determine and honour my own priorities
7. I have the right to have my needs and wants respected by others
8. I have the right to terminate conversations with people who make me feel put down and humiliated
9. I have the right not to be responsible for others' behaviour, actions, feelings or problems
10. I have a right to make mistakes and not be perfect
11. I have the right to say "I do not understand"
12. I have a right to expect honesty from others
13. I have a right to express all my feelings
14. I have a right to be angry at someone I love
15. I have a right to be uniquely me, without feeling I'm not good enough
16. I have a right to feel scared and to say "I'm afraid"
17. I have the right to make decisions based on my feelings, my judgement or any reason that I choose
18. I have a right to change my mind at any time
19. I have the right to be happy
20. I have the right to experience and then let go of fear, guilt and shame
21. I have a right to stability - ie "roots" and stable healthy relationships of my choice
22. I have the right to my own personal space and time needs
23. I have the right to be flexible and be comfortable with doing so
24. I have the right to change and grow
25. I have the right to grieve over what I didn't get that I needed or what I got that I didn't need or want
26. I have the right to be open to improve communications skills so that I may be understood
27. I have a right to make friends and be comfortable around people
28. I have a right to be in a non-abusive environment
29. I have the right to grieve over actual or threatened losses
30. I have the right to trust others who earn my trust
31. I have the right to forgive others and to forgive myself
32. I have the right to give and receive unconditional love 
33. I have the right to deal with others without being dependent on them for approval
34. I have the right to state my own needs and set my own priorities as a person independent of any roles that I may assume in my life

Cry those tears then beat your fears!